Optimal Deprivation: ”No, you can’t get a pony.”

Money, gifts, support, essentials and non-essentials: how much should we be giving our children, and how much should we expect them to do for themselves?  Vicki and Dunc's thoughts as to how to navigate the waters between providing too much ("Sure, we'll buy you that BMW!") and too little ("You'd better start a little farm and grow your own food.").